'Love' is to provide comfort to the 'Beloved'
...These customs have not only ruined our society today but they have also distanced us from the fine points of religion. Maulana Thanawi (ra) has said something very apt and proper. If we get it into our hearts, Allah will cause all our difficulties to be solved. He said, "Love is the name of providing relief to the beloved." One does see that he whom one loves gets all the comforts. It is not love to impose oneself over the beloved and satisfy one's own wishes. If the lover is senseless and foolish then his love will cause hardship to his beloved. However, the respected Maulana proposes that it is senseless to suppose that love can cause hardship and "if you love someone then do not make things difficult for your beloved but make them easy and give relief. You will have to forgo your desires and you must give relief."
Whatever is being said is an explanation of the saying of the Holy Prophet(saw): 'Deal with people according to their disposition.'...
-Mufti Taqi Usmani